Embracing the Sweet Spots
Then it all came together. “Woah, wait a minute. What’s up?” I thought. “Waking up with a smile? Humming, in the morning nevertheless? Thanking my knees? Am I losing it, or could it be that I’m actually… gasp … happy?
Hold on, let me confirm. I scanned my body for any heavy sensations or sad thoughts lurking in my head. Nope, not there. It’s true. In that moment I felt delightfully light; actually, I felt happy. Ahhhh… A most welcomed state after four years of grief from several heart wrenching losses
I also know from experience that there’s no guarantee that, just because I suffered several crushing losses, there isn’t another one right around the corner. But with the awareness of this sad reality, or rather precisely because of it, I will continue to savor every second of this precious sweet spot.
I credit my meditation practice with helping me savor happiness. I probably wouldn’t be feeling my current lightness without having embraced the heavy grief. My emotions and physical sensations needed their time to move through me.
Thankfully, my years of sitting and being present to boredom, anxiety, sadness, fear, annoyance, joy, gratitude and a million hours of fidgeting paid off when I most needed it. I had the tools and experience to fully “be” with the intensity of my sorrow and gain fortitude and strength in the process. And… I have those same tools to fully “be” with my joy. Om to that!
Whether you are going through a difficult patch, in a sweet spot, or somewhere in between, I encourage you to experience the richness of the moment with presence. And I promise you don’t have to sit cross-legged for an hour to do so. All you have to do is:
- Breathe in through your nose, starting from your diaphragm, for 3-6 seconds
- Fully exhale for a second or two longer.
- Repeat for at least three breaths