The words “the holidays” are incredibly loaded. Just hearing them can make us freeze in our tracks and automatically start mentally writing our to-do list – the presents, the meals, the hosting, the decorating, the baking, etc. And, as women, much (I daresay most) of the preparations and planning tend to fall on our shoulders. Sure, it’s fun but it can also be stressful. Here’s a few suggestions to hopefully help ease the stress and crank up the fun.
1. Bring your reading glasses to all events. And make an effort to remember where you put them, especially if they are on top of your head.
2. Wear layers in the event you have a personal power surge. Not everyone will want to put on the A/C in December.
3. Savor those adult beverages. Despite what you may believe, you cannot drink like you could in your younger decades. And, if you forget, you’ll be loudly reminded the entire next day.
4. Smile a lot! (The real one not the other kind). It feels good.
5. Wear your special clothes. What are you waiting for? (And if you are waiting to lose a few pounds, F#*k it!). Ditto for those pristine candles and expensive wine. Enjoy them!
6. Crank up some music and dance! If nothing else, your kids will laugh and secretly think you are cool.
7. When you catch yourself automatically eye-rolling the minute that certain relative starts talking, take a few breaths and listen with fresh ears. If eye-rolling is still warranted, then go for it – internally.
8. Breathe
9. Do not get on the scale until the second week of January. And if it’s a bit higher than you’d like, consider those pounds of joy, and then hit the gym.
10. Everyone loves presents. But your presence is the best gift you could ever give. Give it generously and you will be gifted volumes in return.
I am immensely grateful for each of you who have supported and/or joined me on my Embrace The Middle Journey. I wish you a holiday season awash in unexpected delights, deep connection and many moments of presence.